What has helped me-maybe it can help you
Six months ago, I had a second baby. Six months ago we moved three hours away. It was God’s will and it still is.
I am still getting used to having two children and unpacking my house, but I do not feel as overwhelmed. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.
I knew when I had the baby and moved that people were concerned about me. I did not think the transition would take that long, so I was not worried. Plus my husband and his mom were able to help me a lot more with my toddler. My baby was sleeping through the night pretty well. It was easy for about the first 8 weeks. Now that I have two kids, I am a full-time “stay-at-home” mom.
Thankfully, growing up, my parents instilled the daily habit of reading my Bible and praying.
Daily Bible reading and prayer will help ground your day, it will grow you as a Christian, help all of your relationships, including the most important relationship, your fellowship with Jesus Christ.
I’m also assuming that you have already asked Jesus into your heart once and for all. Salvation is number one priority. Nothing else will matter unless you are going to Heaven when you pass away.
My parents also started me in piano lessons when I was 7 years old. Student teaching children music was mind blowing to me. I learned so much about myself and music and I loved it.
Music can be so helpful. Music has helped me as well as helped me be a blessing to people. Music has grown and stretched me. Music helped kept my mind focused and has kept me awake. Music has kept me from dwelling on the negative. Music has also kept my blood pressure down.
I say all that to say this. When reality of the move and having a second child started to settle in, there were days that I was pretty down, lonely, or just bored with the mundane routine. Music is one of the major components that kept me sane. I NEEDED to play piano. I NEEDED to sing out loud.
There were a couple other things I realized that I needed to do and have:
- Realistic Expectations for myself, my family and my situation.
- DO NOT COMPARE myself to anyone else-comparison brings jealousy.
- Patience with my family, myself, my life, my situations and God.
- Honesty with myself, stop trying to be someone else or perfect. Accept who God made me to be, what I like, who I am, who my family is, and what my family is like.
- Perfectionism is impossible, brings stress and is a lie from the devil. Only God and Heaven are perfect.
- There are other priorities over a clean house. Is my family happy?
- I do not enjoy cleaning my house.
- Friendships – Be a friend, invite people, start a group
- Go over basics– Did I read my Bible and pray today? Have I drank water today? Have I eaten protein and vitamins? Do I need shower or sleep?
- I NEEDED to do hobbies that I enjoyed. If I do not play piano or read regularly I will feel like I am going insane. Journaling my thoughts also helps me.
Thankfully time never stops. When you have bad days, they will not last forever. They make good days even better.
Ask people to pray for you. DO WHAT YOU ENJOY. If you are doing God’s will, good days are inevitable.
Let me know in the comments how I can pray for you.